So there’s this book that I finally decided to check out at the bookstore. This post could be somewhat of a book review. However, I’d like to think of it more as relating with staying open minded and being mindful.
Initially, I didn’t want to pick this book up for some time. Ever since Mark Manson’s book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck became super successful, all these other self help/personal growth authors started dropping the word “f*ck” into their book titles as well. I guess showing that rebellious side in a book title really does attract people.
Since I really liked Mark Manson’s book, I decided to check out all these other books that dropped “f*ck” into the title. I’m always interested in learning different variations of the same topic.
Well, most of the books I came across were not even as good as Mark’s book. They weren’t bad, but not inspiring like Mark’s book. I read a few chapters from them all to see where they would lead. Unfortunately, a lot exposed their overactive ego in the contents. I ended up closing them and returning them back to the book shelf. From that point, I started to ignore books that had the word “f*ck” in the title.
However, recently I’ve stumbled across a book with “f*ck” in almost the same way as the birthday book I blogged about.
I won’t lie, I rolled my eyes every time I saw this book. However, since I came across it in 3 random places, I felt it was my cue to pick it up. To my surprise, it was actually a really, really good book. It incorporated a lot of creative philosophy to help readers understand the content better. This is something I like to incorporate into many of my blog posts.
Right off the bat, I really liked the acknowledgement and the first chapter. It resonated right away, which is a really good thing and the continuing chapters just kept getting better.
What struck me the most was one particular paragraph in the first chapter. It was about despair that really hit the nail on the head for me. I couldn’t have explained it in a better way. The relief I felt after reading it was very liberating.
The paragraph indicated the constant struggle good people have with trying to experience the joy of life and be compassionate towards others but getting lost in negative patterns as a result of knowing and caring too much.
This explains my situation to a T.
I seem to come off as a negative person to many people. This is because I try to explain the things I’ve learned about life in the most honest way possible. It would be nice if things were all sugar and spice and everything nice but they aren’t. If I could explain things better to where people didn’t get easily offended, I would. However, sometimes you can’t sugar coat explanations without becoming a bit deceiving. And if you direct your explanation to someone who is easily offended, it can come across as negative.
This will in turn backfire as the person who views this as negative can strike back with negativity. It can also bring you down in the process. This is something I experience all the time. I get sucked right back into the “toxic righteousness” instead of just allowing people to express their negativity without getting lost in it. I can forget that I’m trying to be a good person and help. This will lead to me getting frustrated about the fact that too many people are still very unaware and oblivious about the kind of world we live in.
When this happens I go back to meditating. It reminds me that there will always be massive amounts of people in this world who are not yet able to pay attention to the massive amount of disturbances on Earth. It’s not their fault. Not everyone is meant to “wake up”. There are those who are meant to stay blissfully ignorant and I have to accept that.
So in conclusion, even though Mark Manson’s book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, was phenomenal, the book, How to Stay Human in a F*cked-Up World by Tim Desmond, was, in my opinion, better. It resonated with me more and had a more mindfulness approach to the challenges in life we face. But most of all, it reminded me to stay openminded and keep practicing mindfulness.